Speaking as a woman is not just about feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are just as important!
It doesn't matter how good you look or how “passable” your feminine voice is… If you have masculine conversational habits, you're going to send people mixed messages.
Here are the main differences between male and female communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and task-oriented in their communication. They use their words to get results.
- Women tend to be less "direct" and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of building relationships.
So what's the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine speaking style?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, we share 3 ways to speak successfully as a woman. Keep reading to find out more!
1. Feminize your vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it's essential to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn't tell you about the "pink dress" she just bought. She would tell you about “Diane Von Furstenberg's adorable fuchsia wrap dress”.
- Men and women use different words for the same thing. For example, a man might call the lower abdomen the intestine, while a woman would be more likely to call it the "belly."
To expand your female vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV and in movies. Read women's magazines. Look up and listen to the words you don't use and incorporate a few new descriptive words or phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk more
Studies show that women speak three times more than men. Although this is obviously not a universal truth, it is something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with just one word? If so, practice developing your answers. Include more details and/or what you think of the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings!)
Of course, that does NOT mean you should talk about yourself all the time. Women are also generally good listeners, so be sure to listen as much as you talk.
Finally, as women use their words to build relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to say rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it's to cut to the chase.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with someone. Not only is it more feminine, but it makes the other person feel validated because you're showing interest in them.
Conclusion
We hope this article will have you more and will help many, but keep in mind that the most important thing is that you feel good about yourself!
With a little practice, you will be able to master these techniques and achieve your goals.
